Addiction & Relationships

Quiz: Are You an Enabler?

By |2019-06-07T16:04:44+00:00June 7th, 2019|

“Enabling feels good, though! It makes us feel like we are helping and doing something good and positive in our family member’s life! It gives us a false sense of control…Our “helping” has only back-fired and prevented our family member from realizing they have a problem.” ~Carol Ann Gillespie and Karen Little, Friends and Family of Addiction: A Survival Manual When you care about someone with a substance abuse problem – alcoholism or drug addiction – it is only natural that you want to help them and keep them safe. After all, isn’t that what [...]

An Open Letter to the Parents of Adult Alcoholics and Addicts

By |2019-06-07T16:01:07+00:00June 6th, 2019|

It is an unbelievably difficult transition. Your teenaged child who has an extensive personal history of substance abuse has just turned 18, and everything has changed. They are now adults in the eyes of the law, and you can no longer legally control what they choose to do. As adults, they can do whatever they want, but then they must face the consequences of their actions. On the other hand, nothing has changed. Adult or not, this is still your child – your flesh and blood. The paltry, arbitrary one-day distinction between 18 years and [...]

Helping Families: Breaking Free from Codependency

By |2019-06-07T16:03:44+00:00June 6th, 2019|

“It’s amazing how many people still don’t understand codependency, even when it is consuming them and those they love. The need to fix others is always easier than accepting we are codependent and need help.” ~Jeanette E. Menter, Christian Lay Counselor and author of You’re Not Crazy—You’re Codependent: What Everyone Affected by Addiction, Abuse, Trauma, or Toxic Shame Needs to Know In relationships that are healthy, both partners comfortably and confidently rely on each other for help, understanding, and support. The relationship brings something positive to both people’s lives. Interdependency is a GOOD thing. [...]

7 Signs That Your Family Member Is Struggling with Addiction

By |2019-06-07T15:57:35+00:00June 6th, 2019|

“Does this mean that families have no role to play in the miraculous process of recovery? On the contrary…Studies have shown time and again that addicts who feel connected to a family that supports the recovery (even if that family is just one person) have a better chance of staying clean then those who believe that no one cares.” ~Beverly Conyers, Addict in the Family: Stories of Loss, Hope, and Recovery It’s not always easy to tell when a loved one is suffering from a substance abuse disorder, whether it is an addiction to alcohol, [...]

Gaslighting: Examples, Effects and How to Confront the Abuse

By |2019-06-06T17:28:12+00:00June 5th, 2019|

Gaslighting: Examples, Effects and How to Confront the Abuse Gaslighting is a form of brainwashing and manipulation that happens on a regular basis. What is Gaslighting? The goal of the gaslighter is to make the victim doubt themselves. Gaslighting abuse causes a person to lose their sense of identity, perception, and worth. Gaslighting is a form of narcissism and sociopathic tendencies as they look to gain power over someone. Pathological gaslighting is a severe form of abuse through mind control. It can happen in the workplace, with society, friends, family, and relationships. Gaslighting abuse [...]

Comparing and Contrasting: The 4 Types of Bipolar Disorder

By |2019-06-06T17:26:52+00:00May 29th, 2019|

Bipolar disorder has four distinct types and is a bigger problem than people realize. Currently, this disorder affects more than 5.8 million Americans. With the rates of mental illnesses rising in the U.S., it’s clear this battle will not end soon. Comparing and Contrasting: The 4 Types of Bipolar Disorder The characteristics of bipolar disorder revolve around normal, manic, and depressive phases. The term “Euthymia” refers to having a normal mood. This ‘normal’ phase means being in a positive, tranquil, and stable mental state. In the manic phase, the individual has an abnormal elevated [...]

This Message is For Parents With Addicted Sons and Daughters

By |2019-06-07T15:56:34+00:00May 6th, 2019|

Crystal meth addiction almost killed my son – and it nearly completely destroyed me in the process. As a parent, you want to shield your children from pain and protect them from the dangers of this world. I used to believe a mother’s love was enough to overcome any adversity my son would ever face. I was wrong. As my son spiraled downward over the course of 12 years, I did everything in my power to put an end to his self-destruction. In the end, I learned I was completely powerless over his illness. [...]

7 Tips on How to Stop Intrusive Thoughts

By |2019-06-06T17:14:35+00:00May 5th, 2019|

Every day, we are at risk of experiencing intrusive thoughts. With thousands of thoughts per day, sometimes we don’t even realize they are there. The intrusive thoughts are the one that are disturbing enough, we pay more attention to them. Our everyday life concerns make up 67% of our thoughts. We experience 18% of thoughts that are bad, unacceptable or not comfortable to deal with. Disturbing intrusive thoughts make up 13% of our daily thought process. Intrusive thoughts are normal. We all experience them. They are unwanted thoughts or images that can cause you [...]

What Types of OCD Are There? Get the Breakdown Here

By |2019-06-06T17:13:55+00:00May 3rd, 2019|

You may have seen a blockbuster hit where the comedic support is filled by a quirky clean freak with something called obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). What Types of OCD Are There? Get the Breakdown Here The leading actor may get upset over a love interest but no matter how much he tries to confide in his OCD friend, all they seem to care about is the cleanliness of the silverware. It gets a good laugh in the theaters, sure, but this common media portrayal of obsessive compulsive disorder is not only taking away from [...]

Why I Loved My Adderall High and Why I Had to Give it Up

By |2019-06-06T17:13:20+00:00May 1st, 2019|

Why I Loved My Adderall High and Why I Had to Give it Up When most people hear the word “amphetamine,” they usually think of crystal meth. At least I used to. Now, I associate it with a legal stimulant I used to take called Adderall. You may have heard of it. It is common among students looking to amp up their academic performance. In fact, college and high school kids who use the stuff call it their favorite “study buddy.” Adderall – One of America’s Favorite Amphetamines Adderall is a prescription medication commonly [...]